• Community,  Life Inspiration

    Global Leadership Summit Day 1 Re-Cap

    The Global Leadership Summit is one of my favorite conferences and I truly believe the information shared from the speakers is top-notch. After day one, my heart and head are full and I am already feeling more refreshed and enlightened.

    My three big takeaways from today were:

    1. Leadership is about others. It is not about me, but about using my potential to improve others and build into others

    2. Entertain the question-What does enough look like in my life?

    3. Leadership is about changing the order 

    Here are some additional thoughts from the day 1 speakers-

    Bill Hybels- Hard Fought Leadership Lessons

    • Everything that matters in this world rises and falls on leadership
    • Leadership is deeply spiritual
    • Every single decision you make as a leader has a direct effect on the emotions and spirit of those you lead
    • God treasures people most in the world
    • People join organizations, they leave managers
    • What if we all looked at conflict as an opportunity to strengthen a relationship vs. the precursor to relationship ruin?
    • Go Figure it Out
    • Great Leadership is relentlessly developmental
    • Develop leaders with a legacy mindset
    • God has given us enormous freedom with what to do with our dash-we can live and lead safe or pursue a grander vision God will give to you
    • Have I given any real thought to what my legacy will be? What of value and beauty will I leave behind with my dash is done?
    • Develop endurance strategies to stay in the game for the long run

    Carly Fiorina- Defining Leadership

    • What you are is God’s gift to you, What you make of yourself is your gift to God
    • Human potential is the only limitless resource we have in this world
    • Leadership is about changing the order of things
    • Leadership is not management
    • Jesus did not go among the poor because he felt sorry for them, He went among the poor because He saw their potential
    • Everyone has more potential then they realize, leaders are made, not born
    • Choose to lead and change the order of things
    • Choose to fulfill your own potential
    • Choose the joy of unlocking the potential in others

    Jeffrey Immelt- Positioning Your Organization for the Future

    • “There has not been one moment when any job was beneath me”
    • Be all in
    • Be more of a giver than a taker
    • You want people to be on fire when they come to work
    • Leadership is an intense journey into yourself

    Susan Cain- Quiet: Challenging the Extrovert Ideal

    • No such thing as a one size fits all environment
    • Solitude is a precious commodity we must restore in our organizations
    • Rethink what we mean by networking. Focus on service
    • Invite the small still voice back to our organizations
    • Have the courage to speak softly!

    Bryan Loritts- Instigating Change through Personal Sacrifice

    • Drink deeply from William Wilberforce
    • We need infinitely more people who are serious about the gospel in the marketplace than in the church
    • Your vocation can become a viable venue to advance the meaningful things of life
    • The blessings of God were not meant to be hoarded, but shared
    • Our vision as leaders has to be more than the stuff that will perish
    • God’s laws are never have to, they are get to
    • God saves us as is, but never leaves us as is
    • The Bible is a transcript of God’s heart, which means I can’t claim to have God’s heart and do nothing for the least of these
    • Look at the way you lead and entertain the question of enough

    Patrick Lencioni- The Most Dangerous Mistake Leaders Make

    • Don’t be a leader just to be a leader
    • When people become leaders for the wrong reason, they lose their goodness and stop caring for the people they are supposed to lead
    • The cost of people becoming leaders for themselves leaves a trail of tears
    • If people become leaders because they have calculated the ROI it is just economics
    • When we aren’t vulnerable, we lose trust with the people we lead
    • People don’t want us to perfect, they want us to be human
    • Our identity can get wrapped up in being a leader which is bad when it crowds out our other higher identities
  • Community

    Go Buy Someone a Cup of Coffee

    Excuse me while I rant for a minute. On social medial, about social media (ironic I suppose).  I have a love-hate relationship with the entirety of social media. I use my Facebook to communicate, keep track of the friends I have literally all over the world, and support some causes very near to my heart. However, most days I hate how people use social media to proclaim their thoughts or beliefs on something. As if social media wasn’t impersonal enough, we now feel the need to share a blog post condemning the entire race of humanity (maybe a slight exaggeration).

    Bloggers, we are partly at fault for this over-sharing.  As soon as something hits mainstream media, Christian and non-Christian bloggers alike rush to their screens to publish their monologue of thoughts, opinions, and sometimes even scripture to back up their side of the story.  Then we encourage our readers to tweet, share, and like our post, causing the words we write to spiral through the social media universe. (sometimes I wish this would happen to my blogs, but that is a different story)  My heart breaks at some the blogs I see shared on my newsfeed. While I want to believe in my heart my Facebook friends are well-meaning, I often want to shake them by the shoulders and say, “Stop sharing and go buy someone a cup of coffee!

    This week my frustration has reached a boiling point as I have read and seen countless examples of Christians responding with hate and judgment to tender, heart-breaking situations.  I sent one of my dear friends a text and said, “I hate that I claim to serve the same God they claim to serve.” My heart breaks for the broken, the hurting, and those who are silently suffering.  It also breaks for the people in my life who seem to have forgotten our mandate was to “love God and love others.”  It is not complicated. It does not require arguing the nuances of the Bible. It is simple.

    So today, before you hit share on that article, stop and put on your critical thinking hat. Take a minute to ask yourself, “Is this showing love to my neighbor (or Facebook friend or random stranger who may read it)?”  And better yet, turn off your Facebook and go to the nearest Starbucks and buy someone a cup of coffee.  Or pay for someone’s lunch. Or make your neighbor cookies.  Take the hard step of doing something, not just clicking the share button.  If we all did that, this world would be a better place.

     

  • Faith,  Uncategorized

    Life…Interrupted

    If I could go to coffee with anyone right now, it would be Jen Hatmaker.  Her books and blogs and absolutely ridiculous Facebook posts make me laugh, cry, and challenge me to think bigger and beyond right now.  I mean, my friend Whitney and I regularly have texting conversations about her. Which may be a little weird considering we don’t actually know her..oh well.  Given my huge respect for her, when she sent out an e-mail enlisting bloggers to be her launch team for her newly re-released copy of  Interrupted,  I immediately jumped on the opportunity.  I mean, who wouldn’t want to the chance to read a book for free, write a blog about it, and then give one away to your faithful readers (pretty good chance my mom might win!). All this to say, here is my review of Interrupted: When Jesus Wrecks Your Comfortable Christianity by the one and only Jen Hatmaker.

     

    Several years ago, I spent a summer in the bush of Africa. At night, we had the only lights within miles and you could see the stars with incredible clarity.  You also find a lot of ways to entertain yourself when it gets dark at 6 and you are stuck in a small building with 18 other people.  So one of the things we did often was drag the mattresses outside and gaze at the stars.  One of those nights, I remember feeling so very small in the grand scheme of things.  Here I was, a middle-class, white girl in the middle of Africa thinking I might be able to do something good.  And while I am sure we did something decent while there, the internal change in me was probably more significant.  I came home convinced it was not about what I could do, but it was all about Jesus.  And Jesus, well, He will compel you to do all kinds of crazy things.

    Fast forward five years, I am planted in a southern Indiana. A far cry from the simplicity of Africa and the simple joy of star-gazing and discussing when exactly was the last time you showered.  An internal wrestling began in my soul-how can I be Jesus to those around me? Is there not more to this being a Christian thing than cool worship sets and trendy churches? Why do I feel so exhausted after doing church? As I have traveled down this road, God has brought along encouragement and answers at the exact moments when my soul was ready to listen. Interrupted came at just such a time.

    Author Jen Hatmaker, in Interrupted takes readers through a journey of figuring out what following Jesus looks like in our post-modern world.  The book is broken into five phases in which Jen, in her typical style, walks you through the journey of starting Austin New Church. Her writings made me laugh, cry, and put into words so eloquently the deep wrestling of my soul. She doesn’t write from a place of having all the answers, her book is more like a conversation. One between close friends sharing the victories and the struggles.  When I finished the book, I breathed a sigh of relief. I felt like I had permission to make mistakes, engage culture, and be about the business of loving people like Jesus loves them. This is not about us. It is about Jesus and His kingdom.  We may get to play a small role in the big picture, but never ever is it about us or our church or our program or our ministry.  And amen to that because if it is all about Jesus, we have the freedom to love and to admit mistakes and to try again.

    I could write all day on this, but I will sum it up by saying if you go to church, lead in church, or serve in church, you need to read this book.  The message is overwhelmingly clear. It is not about the church. It is not about the band or the building or the programs. It is about the kingdom of God and the bold message of Jesus who proclaimed light in the darkness, commanded his followers to love the least of these, and offers hope and salvation to anyone who would believe in His power to cleanse their sins.  He doesn’t demand perfection, He demands sacrifice, bottom-dwelling, and death to self. As Jen puts it at the end of the book, “the battle is for the souls of humanity, and our secret weapon is love.

    To give you more incentive to read the book, here are some of my other favorite quotes..

    This is it. We can follow our Jesus to every dark, scary, broken place He just insists on going, hell-bent on healing and restoring people, because He is a good Savior and we can trust Him.

    I realized I was completely normal. But  my Savior was the most unnormal guy ever. And it was His unnormal ideas that made everything new.

    We don’t get to opt out of living on mission because we might not be appreciated. 

    I dream of a church that is once again called great, even by our skeptics, because our works of mercy cannot be denied. 

    I am no Savior; I am just a sister. 

    Serving people is not heaven’s requirement, only a response to heaven’s mercy.

    People are hungry to have a meaningful spiritual discussion; they just don’t want to have it with the Christian weirdo who doesn’t even know their last name. 

    Living on mission will be misinterpreted and criticized.

     

    And stay tuned for a giveaway of the book in the next week!!! 🙂

     

    All quotes taken from: Hatmaker, Jen. (2014). Interrupted: When Jesus Wrecks Your Comfortable Christianity. Navpress. 
  • Faith

    “I desire Mercy, not Sacrifice”

    Last week, I spent a lot of time visiting at the hospital. As I was working to rearrange meetings so I could be there for those I love, I was reminded of one of my favorite passages of scripture-

    Matthew 9:11-13

    11 When the Pharisees saw this, they asked his disciples, “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?”12 On hearing this, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. 13 But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.”

     This has not always been one of my favorite passages, and I bet most people skim over it and don’t really consider the implications of this verse.  But as I have dug deeper into the life of Christ and what it means to follow Him, this passage keeps coming back to me.

    First, you must consider the context. In the few verses before this, Christ calls Matthew to be one of His disciples. Matthew was a tax collector, not the ideal job in Biblical times and probably not the resume you would pick out if you wanted to find someone who would spread your message of hope and compassion to the ends of the earth.  But that’s what Jesus did. He saw the potential in people. He gave them value and entrusted them with a great mission before they were considered worthy.   After Jesus calls Matthew, He goes to eat at his house and naturally Matthew invites a bunch of his friends over.  Enter the passage above. The religious of the day did not understand why Jesus would eat with Matthew’s friends (the tax collectors and sinners).

    This is just one reason why I love Jesus. He doesn’t miss a beat and He doesn’t argue with the Pharisees on why He should be or should not be eating with them. He simply recounts for them His mission and charges them to consider what He means- “I desire mercy, not sacrifice.” 

    Consider those words: mercy and sacrifice.

    Mercy–  

    Compassion or forbearance shown especially to an offender or to one subject to one’s power; 

    A blessing that is an act of divine favor or compassion

    Sacrifice– 

    The act of giving up something that you want to keep especially in order to get or do something else;

     An act of offering to a deity something precious

    The Pharisees were good at sacrifice. That was their job description.  But Christ comes and says, “Look, I know you are really good at sacrifice, but I really want you to work on mercy. That is how I operate.”  Christ was about to become the ultimate sacrifice in order to offer us ultimate mercy. And as He walked on earth, He practiced mercy. He ate with the tax collectors, He cared for the poor and the widow, He loved people who would never be able to return the favor.  And He didn’t stand around arguing His point or defending His stance. He did not justify to the Pharisees why He was eating with Matthew’s friends. He simply reminded them of His  mission on earth- “I have come to call the sinners.” 

    Mercy shows love without expectation.  And Christ was the ultimate example.  He invites us to follow Him, to learn what it means to desire mercy. To love others. And to spend time with those who need to know and understand the hope and love of a Savior who spent His time with the tax collectors and sinners.

    So go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’

  • Conquering Fears,  Faith

    Patience, Jealousy, and the Pavement

    Patience- the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset

    If I am anything, patient is not it. Perhaps a product of growing up in an instant culture, I struggle majorly with patience.   And on top of that, I am stubborn. So it takes a really long time for me to realize God is trying to teach me to be patient. I just keep hitting my head against the wall thinking one of these days it will move rather than step back and realize if I walked two steps to my left there would be an open door.

    Something else you should know is I am a runner.  It is my escape.  I love to put on my running shoes, crank up  my music, and run. But two years ago, shortly after running a half marathon, I limped home from a 5 mile run.  I attempted several more short runs, only to end up quitting because I was in so much pain.  I have spent the past two years seeing chiropractors and orthopedics only to be left with no answers. It seems as though I am an anomaly.  Then about 7 months ago,  in a moment of frustration, I tried one last chiropractor.  I have no idea why I thought he might be able to help (at this point, I had seen three and one orthopedic only to be told I should just give up running).  But I was determined to find an answer. I was not willing to accept the fact I could never be a runner again.

    Fast forward 7 months to last Saturday and I was able to run 3 miles (you should know, I still don’t have an answer, but with a lot of therapy and ice, I can run again!). Granted it was VERY slow, but I ran 3 miles with no pain.  When I got home, I wanted to cry and jump for joy in the same moment.  As I processed my excitement, I realized in the last two years, while I was frustrated and impatient, God has been working on my heart. He has been stripping away the feelings of jealousy and competition as I watched those around me run and I was left sitting on the sidelines. He has been replacing my heart of impatience with one slowly learning to be patient and wait on His timing.  And He has been preparing me to dive into a ministry that must be navigated slowly and a ministry partnership in which jealousy and competition have to be checked at the door.  He is showing me how much I need to depend on Him and how little it matters the race others are running around me.

    I have spent a lot of the last two years secretly frustrated I couldn’t run. I was jealous of people I barely knew because they were running marathons and I had to watch my goal of running 26 in year 26 come and go without being completed. I was angry at myself for not being able to run and upset no one had an answer. But in the middle of it all, God was molding me and preparing me. He was teaching me the answer is not as important as the journey,  community is more beautiful than competition, and slow progress is just as beautiful as overnight success.

    I have no idea what lies ahead, but I can assure you it will require a lot of patience, slow running, dying to myself, and learning to check jealousy, competition, and results at the door.

  • Community

    Pick Up the Trash

    While I was working on my master’s degree, I had to interview and write a paper on a local individual I considered a leader.  After much debate, I interviewed a leader I had actually never met, but someone who I respected from a distance.  As I sat and listened to him, I realized why I was so impressed with his leadership-at his core, he was just a regular guy with big dreams and a big heart.

    At this point, I don’t remember much of the conversation, although I have it recorded somewhere I think, but I do remember one thing he told me when he is looking for leadership qualities in those around him.

    He said he notices whether they pick up trash.

    He said if he sees them walk down the hall and ignore the trash on the floor, he has a slightly lower opinion of their leadership skills.   This thought has played over and over in my mind throughout the past two years as I have gotten more involved in the community and stepped into different leadership roles.  I think one of the reasons it stands out to me so much is because this aspect of leadership is about who you are when people are not watching.  I would say most of the time, no one is going to notice when I do or do not pick up the trash I see in the building, on the sidewalk, in the parking lot, or even at my own house.   Honestly, even if they do notice, they probably just think I am crazy for picking up someone else’s trash.

    But what if leadership came down to something as simple as picking up trash? Oh I know, it is way more complex than that, but is it?  What would the world be like if everyone picked up trash when they saw it? But beyond that, what would it look like if leaders or wanna-be leaders lived their lives like people were watching all the time.  Because, let’s be honest for a minute, if the CEO of your company is watching, you will pick up the trash. But if no one is paying attention, you might just leave the tiny gum wrapper for the janitor to pick up.

    By no means am I perfect and my leadership skills have a long way to go, but of all the advice I have received, “pick up the trash” ranks up near the top. It resonates with the idea a leader is not made overnight, but in the moments when no one is watching, in the times when it might be easy to cut corners, and in the seconds when you stop to pick up trash rather than simply keep on walking.

     

  • Community,  Faith

    Interrupted and a Giveaway

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    Super exciting news (for the book nerd and blogger in me)!!!

     

    Jen Hatmaker (who I adore) asked for 250 bloggers to read and write about her updated copy of Interrupted. Seven radically challenged me in a million ways so  I thought I would apply and I got chosen!!!! I am oh so excited to dive into Interrupted!

     

    I will be blogging over the next month on the book and how it challenges me which I am sure it will as the tagline is “When Jesus wrecks your comfortable Christianity.”

     

     

    If you would like to follow along, you can get the book here at a 20% discount.

    And at the end of it all, I will giveaway a copy of the book to one of my dear readers.  🙂

     

  • Faith

    Looking at Life through the Magnifying Mirror

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    When I got married, I registered for a mirror for my bathroom. It’s a round one you hang on the wall and one side is a magnifying mirror (see picture to right). In other words, one side of the mirror shows all my flaws. Clearly.  I can easily spend a very long time in front of the mirror. Poking, plucking, prodding.  And I mean, come on, adult acne is the worst.  The crazy thing is when I step away from the tiny, magnifying mirror, those flaws I saw oh so clearly just disappear. They fade away and the zit I was convinced was the size of Texas is barely noticeable.

     

    Now, I realize this idea could go in a million different directions, but this is where it hit me today. I spend my life looking at things in the tiny, magnifying mirror.  Each idea or project gets scrutinized and analyzed and every problem becomes Mt. Everest.  And then I tell someone else my HUGE problem and they quip, “Oh, I know someone who can do that!”  REALLY?!  I just spent an entire day trying to figure out how to make X work and in one sentence, you have a solution.

     

    When I look at things through my eyes, it is like looking in the magnifying mirror. Each problem or hurdle is HUGE. It seems impossible. But when I step back and look at things through the eyes of Jesus, I see small hills and am reminded “with God all things are possible (Matt 19:26)“and “Greater is He who is in me than he who is in the world(I John 4:4).”  As I continue to embark on a scary journey into the unknowns of starting ministries and building relationships, I am reminding myself the mirror is not the voice I should be listening to and the mountains are simply ways for me to rely greater on God and less on my feeble skills.  Stay tuned for the exciting days ahead!

     

  • Community,  Faith

    A Note on Budgets

    For awhile in my life, I was a Dave Ramsey nay-sayer.  I worked in an industry with a very low opinion of his tactics and methods.  They had valid reasons for their dislike of him.  But I was just a band-wagon jumper.  I did not have any real reason for disliking him, but I did.

    In preparation for marriage, our pastor told us we could cut out one of week of pre-marital counseling if we went through Financial Peace University (FPU). Seemed like a fair trade–one week of pre-marital counseling for nine weeks of FPU. (I am sure this is what Jordan thought as well..) I figured I might as well give him (Dave) a shot and at least have a solid reason for my dislike of him.  Plus, I knew Jordan and I needed to talk about combining finances and budgets and all those money issues before we got married. Thus, we signed up for Financial Peace in January.

    After nine weeks, I have to admit, I am still not his biggest fan nor do I think his way is the best way for everyone. I do think some of his principles are rock solid, but I also think some of his principles are plain hogwash.  That’s life though.  I don’t take every piece of advice my financial guy gives me either.  What I will say is FPU was a game changer in my personal life and I believe in our marriage as well.

    Game Changer #1: Switching to cash. Do it. I dare you.  And I promise you, you will save money. Because at the end of the day, I don’t like to spend my cash. I will pack a lunch and sit at a restaurant to save my allowance.  I think twice about shopping, what I am purchasing, and how often I eat out. We cook a lot. We spend time together at home and the TV we paid cash for just sits there collecting dust because we won’t spring for cable or rarely the $1.49 a Redbox movie costs (I mean, who’s allowance does it come out of??).

    Game Changer #2: Sticking to a budget. We created one. I made this spiffy Google Doc spreadsheet that is color-coded and full of formulas (insert nerd here). BUT the key is, we stick to it.  Most of our bills are automatically deducted and for everything else we switched to cash. I never worry about over-drafting our account and we have been able to save a crazy amount of money.  This is not to pat us on the back by any means (especially because we aren’t following Dave’s steps in order), but to say that I never realized how much the little purchases added up until I cut them off.

    Game Changer #3: We are able to be generous. Perhaps my favorite part of going through FPU was the fact it opened up lines of communication on our finances and allowed us to align our priorities. We save a lot, but we also give a lot.  Our finances are not a source of contention or stress in our marriage-they are a source of joy and we have been able to use them to bless other people in our life.

    At the end of the day, I am glad I gave Dave a chance. I have been able to spend the last 3.5 months of marriage enjoying life and not stressing over finances. I have been able to find joy in experiences and not in stuff. And we have been able to meet needs and pay off debt and save money in ways I never thought possible.   If you have never attended Financial Peace University, I would challenge you to find a class and sit through it with an open mind.  It may not solve all your problems, but it may just save you from making a few more.

     

     

  • Faith

    Quit: The Snooze Button

    I used to have an awesome morning routine. I would get up early, go to the gym, and have a decent amount of time to spend in Bible study before work.

    Then..

    I had to move unexpectedly, winter happened, and I was planning a wedding.  Needless to say, when your car doors are frozen shut and it’s -10 at 5am, heading to the gym is not really an option.  Beyond that, quite frankly, I got lazy and gave up completely.

     

    Six months later, I have yet to be able to get back into a routine. It is really hard to go back to 5am wake-up calls when 6:30am has been the norm for a while.  I set my alarm, but normally just hit the snooze button until the last possible minute, get up, shower, and (barely) make it work by 8.  Every morning is rushed and stressful.  As I begin to work towards clearing my schedule, I decided the first thing I have to make time for is prayer and Bible study.  I want to prayerfully consider what I am doing, why I am doing it, and how to move forward.  Plus, my personal life, marriage, and professional life need to peace and solitude I used to find in those early mornings.

     

    Thus for “Quit It” Day #1 I am quitting the snooze button.  I will make sure I get adequate sleep (don’t worry mom), but I am going to work towards re-building my morning routine. It is my favorite time of day.

     

    P.S. I know this is a day late. And I semi-failed this morning, but in my defense, I have an ear infection.  Tomorrow is a new day:)