Over my Christmas break, God has really challenged me with this whole idea of contentment. And it has not always been easy. I think the biggest area it shows up in is the whole relationship arena. It seems like all my friends are hooking up, and quite frankly being single and hanging out with people who aren’t just isn’t as much fun. Yet, finding a relationship seems to have eluded me. Someday I will, I know it. I know God has someone out there. But it’s hard right now. I sometimes wish God would drop him on my doorstep tomorrow so I wouldn’t have to agonize over this.:) But that isn’t going to happen, so I am just going to have to learn to be content with where I am now. I read a quote in a book the other day. It happened to be on this subject, but the author said something like being content is not about not wanting a boyfriend, but about being ok with the fact that you don’t have one. I never thought about contentment like that. I always thought if I wanted it then I must not be content-and to a certain extent that is true. But God wired us as relational beings. Its only natural that I want that. In fact, it might be more unnatural if I didn’t want it. (but that’s besides the point). It’s a whole timing thing. Anyways, I decided I was just going to be ok with the fact that I didn’t have a boyfriend. I don’t need one, and while yes-I do want one (I will admit it), I don’t need one. I was going to be content with where I was. That didn’t mean my desire changed, but slowly God has been changing my desire. He has shown me that He has a plan and if I will trust Him-things will all work out. If I will be content with where I am, He will provide far better then I ever could on my own. So who knows what will happen-I’m leaving things in God’s hands.
Just a thought..
Amanda
2 Comments
Briee
As I read your blog it was as if I were reading my diary from years ago. I mean, word for word. Well, I just wanted to encourage you and let you know that it will happen. It's just in his time. It's hard to be patient, but oh so worth it. Some advice I wish I had listened to I heard in a sermon. He said as much as you want a family (this was addressed to single people) you will need this time to focus on God and your relationship with him with having no distractions. You can put 100% towards him. When you have a family, or a boyfriend, you have to give to hubby, give to kids, inlaws, parents, etc… your attentions are divided. That was his sermon in a nutshell. When i read your post, it brought that sermon back to me and I thought I might pass it on. REMEMBER< he wants the best for you!!!!!!!! Don't settle for second best.
Amanda
Thank you! That was such an encouragement!!